If siblings are unable to reach an agreement, an elderly caregiver or mediator can help work out the agreement. Mediators can also help if one of the siblings violates the agreement. The violation of a fraternity agreement may be due to the loss of power or a reduction in succession. In addition, it is now useful to take a new look at your brothers and sisters. Parents create labels and roles for each child, and everyone in the family adopts them and assumes they are true. They may be based on a reality, but parents can also assign these labels for all sorts of reasons: who was born first or last, which child reminds mom of her older sister (whom she`s in pain), which child is most similar to dad in their personality – and how mom feels about dad! Dealing with your siblings through parental care can be challenging, complex, and emotional. It is important to understand your emotions in this difficult time and try to also have compassion for the feelings of their siblings, even if you disagree. Ask them directly and specifically what you need, without guilt or anger. If you can`t do this or there are still conflicts, add an objective professional who will help your family solve the problems that need to be solved. Family dynamics were present before taking care of your parents, and you might not be able to resolve existing conflicts now to your satisfaction.

The most important thing is that you are sure to get help for yourself so that you can rest during your care trip and after you are done. If you are angry or terribly hurt in an argument with your siblings, try to take a step back, calm down, and focus only on that issue, for example. .

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